Monday, 19 December 2011

Just had to get this off my chest...

Everyone knows that when you are married to someone in the Army, life isn't always going to be a breeze. There have been times when this lifestyle has caused me to be upset, overwhelmed and lonely but through all the ups and downs I can honestly say that I wouldn't trade this lifestyle for anything. I am generally a 'glass half full' kind of person so one of the things that irritates me the most is other Army Wives who constantly complain and who make out like they are a 'victim' of this lifestyle.

Now I am definitely not a feminist, but sometimes I feel that there are a lot of Army Wives out there who are selling themselves short. I see people post sappy poems that basically describe Army Wives as clingy women who sit at home alone, pining for their husbands while they are away. Just today, I read a blog by an Army Wife where she was complaining about how hard it was for her to go a party and meet new people without her husband by her side. SERIOUSLY LADIES!! We are stronger than that! Yes, it is ok to miss your husband when he is away but we can't stop living our own lives just because they are not around. Yes, it can be daunting meeting a lot of new people for the first time but as an Army Wife there is no room for being scared of meeting new people.

So if anyone (other than my mum lol) is reading this, let me say this to you. Yes, being an Army Wife can be ... well, for lack of a better word... it can be shit. But complaining and feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to make things any easier. So stir that teaspoon of cement into your glass and drink up ladies! Cheers!

Until next time,



  1. Couldn't agree more C :) you have to learn to get out there and develop a support network or you will sit at home and go crazy lol.

  2. I cant help but feel you are talking about my comment... For someone who doesn't like drama and bags others out for it your blog seems to be a great place for you to post be about what you tell others not to b like, drama queens.

    Others deal diffrent, instead of bagging them out why not offer to catch up meet up? I know with children and no work at the moment it is hard to meet anyone and it doesnt help that all my partners work mates are mainly single.

    Can you blame some woman for not wanting to go out without a husband when this is how the army wives act?

    1. I'm sorry if you feel I was talking about you but I don't know who you are or what comment you are referring to. Yes it can be hard meeting new people (and trust me, there are always going to be people who you'd rather not meet!) but we have to be strong on not rely on others i.e. our husband/partner to always be around. I am all for supporting one another when we are going through tough times but sometimes support isn't just being a shoulder to cry on, but rather someone who will gently but firmly tell you that you need to harden up.